No background check. No first date.
I won’t go on a first date with a man unless he has passed a background check, no matter how we met.
Help launch the movement.
Take the pledge early, explore how it works, and choose whether to be recognized publicly as an Early Safer Dating Advocate.
Public recognition is optional.
You’re invited to pledge before launch
Take the pledgeDating culture doesn't change on its own.
Women deserve safer first dates. Yet too often, they are still left to manage the risks of meeting someone new on their own. Change begins when enough of us take a stand and make safer first dates the norm.
Commit to a safer standard.
Help make safer first dates the standard.
Show that prioritizing safety is never asking too much.
Every pledge helps build a culture where safer first dates are the standard.
More than 1 in 5
Adult women in the U.S. have experienced completed or attempted rape in their lifetime.
Everyone has a role in making dating safer
13,324
Women took the safer first date pledge
4,218
Men took the ally pledge
7,906
Supporters joined the movement
25,448 people have joined the movement.
2,338 Safer Dating Advocates
Women are raising the standard.
Every pledge helps make background checks a more normal part of first date safety.
Mackenzie Avy
I believe everyone deserves to feel safe, respected, and comfortable when meeting someone new. I support Safer Dates because better safety, clearer boundaries, and greater accountability should be a normal part of dating.
Laylah Ricard
Dating should be about getting to know someone, not wondering whether you can trust the situation. I support Safer Dates because giving people more confidence and information before meeting can lead to healthier, safer dating experiences.
Scott Avy
I want to help people go on safer and better dates.
Wherever you met him, keep the same standard.
Where you met should not determine your safety standard.
What counts for this pledge?
A qualifying background check includes SSN verification, government-issued ID review, and available record screening before the first date.
A background check adds one screening layer. It cannot guarantee safety or identity, predict future behavior, and available records may be incomplete.
Helps match the background check to the person being screened and reduce fraud.
May include sex offender registries, global watchlists, and national criminal records, where available.
The background check must receive a passed result before the first date.
This standard is possible today.
After you join, we'll show you a free way to require a background check before a first date, no matter where you met.
No cost to you
SSN + ID review
Screen before the date